We were at my parents house last Sunday and Hope asked her Daddy to get her some apple juice. Brett went into the kitchen, fixed her a cup of apple juice, and brought it back to her. Then the sparks started to fly. She insisted it wasn’t apple juice. He told her that it was apple juice. She kept insisting that it wasn’t apple juice. Maybe I can reason with her. I told her it was apple juice. No it isn’t. Yes it is. No it isn’t. Yes it is. Ok. This isn’t working.
I wish I could get inside of her head during moments like this. Why does she think that it isn’t apple juice? Is it because it’s in a cup that she can’t see through? Is it because it’s a purple cup and she thinks that there is grape juice hiding inside?
I told her that if she would taste it she would find out that it was apple juice. She refused. I asked her again to try it. She was very irritated but she took a sip so that she could prove once and for all that it was not apple juice. She suddenly had a very puzzled expression on her face. Then she looked up at me and she said “It’s apple juice?” The room filled with laughter.
The apple juice incident made me think about Matthew 7:9-11. Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
Hope’s Daddy wants to give her good gifts. She asked for apple juice and he gave her apple juice. But when the apple juice looked different from what she expected it to look like, she didn’t want it. Don’t we all do that at times in our life? We pray for something and God answers. But when the answer doesn’t look like we expected it to look we get upset.
Life with our two turtles doesn’t look like I expected it to look. When I held our newborn babies, I thought life would be exactly like it had always been. We would just be living life with twice as many children. I didn’t picture meltdowns, sensory overloads, and disorders being a part of our life. But they are.
If Hope asks her Daddy for a glass of Mountain Dew the answer will be no. Hope and caffeine should never be mixed together. It will cause an explosion. Sometimes we ask God for something and He says no. We can’t understand why He says no, but He sees the explosion that is going to happen if He says yes. His ways are higher than our ways. Why did He choose for us to be the parents of special needs kids? I have no idea. But I know that His gifts are good even when they come in a different package than we were expecting.